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Hey guys! Happy New Year! I’m finally
ready to make my 2018 comeback! Last year I wrote a lot of book reviews and
made more entertainment focused posts but this year I’m going to try and mix it
up a bit with a lot more lifestyle posts because ya’know, someone needs to talk
about the deep stuff.
In today’s post I want to talk a bit about friendships.
Every person that I have been friends with or have come across in my life, has left some sort of imprint on my personality. Even if vaguely, I like to take the time to get to know the people around me. The closer you get to someone, the more you peel their undercover layer of personality and I think it’s a special thing when they allow you to get to know the real them. Because let’s be honest, even when people say they’re an open book with everyone, there is still more to them.
I feel like even though it may not come across that way, I have felt stagnant in the friendship department for the past few months. I’ve been re-evaluating my friendships and what the meaning of friendship is. In this day and age I don’t think friendship is taken seriously anymore. To quote my friend ‘people talk and move on the next day’, there just seems to be no depth to it.
I have come to the conclusion that I care too much, not necessarily about what people think, but about how they feel and that is damaging my mental health. If I could, I would just keep everyone happy but obviously that’s not possible and I have to, quite frankly, get over it. In some of my friendships I have felt that an unequal amount of effort is being put in and if that’s the case then how is the friendship meant to grow? The thing that frustrates me the most is that people complain about not having loyal friends but when they do get a friend like that, they just seem to throw the friendship away.
Communication is a major point in any friendship/relationship and if it’s not open then I don’t see how a friendship is meant to progress. I think bad communication in a friendship can make you feel like crap. If you overthink like me then it can also make you feel anxious or paranoid. And when I say bad communication, I don’t mean not constantly talking to someone - I know from experience that you can speak to someone twice a year but have an amazing friendship with them.
Some people go, some people stay and that’s completely okay. No matter how much you care about someone, you can’t force them to stay in your life. There will come a time when you will have to make the decision to part ways with close friends in order to save yourself from toxicity. There may also be times when you care too much about a friend and they’re not giving you the same amount of attention, in that case it’s best to just take a step back.
What do you think the meaning of friendship is?
Sylvia
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